Today's topic isn't necessarily limited to girls, but it is a fairly serious relationship happenstance that any number of you are going to want to avoid.
For fans of Veronica Mars the "Piz" effect should be fairly straight-forward. For the rest of you, just imagine any television program (and there are many of these) that fits this formula.
Take a look at the trio to the right. Typical television triangle, only what this picture misleads you into believing that the out of focus gent in the middle is coming between the pair in the front... Well that assumption is both right and wrong.
There is a type of relationship trap us fellas get caught in. You see that guy on the left? His name is Piz and he, like many of us, finds himself in a very unfortunate predicament. In "The Piz Effect" we meet a girl, fall for her instantly, and start to have something. Sure, Piz is a nice fellow, and he starts to really fall for this girl, but he can tell (or he blindly ignores) that there is something beneath the surface brewing.
And then it happens. We slowly become aware of her history, and more specifically her ex- boyfriend. Oh they had this intense love/hate, on/off relationship. It could have lasted weeks, months, years, etc. Even though they aren't together now they still manage to have a fairly volatile relationship. They may talk, they may fight, or they may be hundred miles away (physically or mentally), but they aren't really apart. No, these two have a bond that keeps pulling them together.
Why they get back together can be for a variety of reasons: inability to let go of the past, love of the familiarity, or maybe, just maybe they truly believe that in the end it's just meant to be. Whatever the reason may be, it's a very problematic situation to be the one that's in the way of that. To be the "love interest" getting in the way of this dramatic couple, the one that sure you like, and may even root for a little, but you are never the one that gets the girl. Karen doesn't end up with Jim. Piz doesn't end up with Veronica Mars, Frasier didn't end up with Diane. Sure we meet the girl, sweep her off her feet for a tiny amount of time, but it's doomed from the start.
What does that make us in the long run? To be the "love interest? Do we hold places in their hearts? Maybe, maybe not. Are we just a footnote in the grand scheme? The parts left out in the story they tell their grandchildren? I'm not sure. It all depends on the girl, and the relationship I suppose.
I mentioned in my last post that Damsels in Distress tend to come with baggage, this is a specific kind of baggage. It would be so pretty to think that these girls would realize that if a relationship is that fragile, that they break up, get back together, break up again, get engaged for a few days, etc, etc... it probably isn't meant to be. Even if the ex is out of the picture, he's never really out of the picture. He can come between you just by existing if there is that part of her that is still hopelessly in love with him, it is just a bitch to be a part of.
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